I just got back from watching "Ugly Truth" in the theater and let me tell you, it's an eye-opener. Not something that should be watched right after "He's Just Not That Into You" -- I mean, let's face it, we women don't need that big of a dose of depression because we are somehow unworthy of love by a fabulous man and are inadvertently driving 'the one' away with our own intense personalities. And we especially don't need to be told that all man are essentially dogs. We get enough of that in the real world, so let us just escape into fairytale land and see what men of our dreams would look like if they were real. Seriously. Sure, we've all heard the line, "men are simple, stop trying to analyze us!" but do they really expect us to just stop trying to read them? That's like asking a guy to stop staring at a woman's.....more eye-catching attributes. Men do it. They don't even care if we notice. We get offended. But then we analyze what they do and say in an effort to understand this somehow baffling male gender. And they get frustrated. And irritated. No, the more appropriate word is: pissed. It's a vicious cycle. They stare, we analyze. Let's just all accept these facts and move on.
Anyway, what's the point of playing off men as insensitive, horny, bastards? Yes I said the "I" word. Are they really like that? As much as a rash of movies suddenly want us to get it through our skull that men really are simple and care more about the physical than anything else a woman has to offer, I still can't swallow that story. Now does this make me deranged? Am I just holding on to a false hope that someday I will find my prince charming to sweep me off my feet in the way that all old-fashioned love stories portray? Is this kind of love even realistic? Or am I right? Do men want to love a woman the way women want to be loved? I'm not a complete idiot that believes that the physical is only lust. No siree, God made us with a certain amount of sex appeal for a reason. So when is the line crossed where the physical is finally put on the back burner? When does personality, character, virtue actually get recognized?
Here's a clue to men: women DO want to be seen as beautiful and sexy, but that's not ALL we want to be known for. Why do you think women are so insecure? It's because any moment we're waiting for the time when we are no longer seen as physically attractive, and don't feel as though we will be sought after for anything more. And that is the moment of abandonment. The suspense is killing us. So we put everything into making our outer shell into something extravagant. We nearly kill ourselves putting together the perfect body, spend hours in front of a mirror perfecting our face--makeup, moisturizer, perfectly arched brows--and let's not forget the hair--is it cut right? curled right? do I need bangs? should I get rid of the bangs? straight or crimped? You have NO idea. And then there's clothes that need to be carefully picked out. See, we want to look appealing without going overboard (not only for the occasion, but to not out-dress you). We want sexy, not slutty. Where is the line drawn? This gets more confusing when men prefer different....styles.
You see the dilemma? Yes, this probably backs up your opinion that women are crazy. But understand that is due partially to you. Men: the bane of our existence in more ways than one.
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